I suppose first I should give a little more background as to my situation, or why I consider myself "isolated" First of all, I should say that the biggest factor is the bus system here in Japan. My town is not connected to the famed and fabled train system in Japan, and as such, the only way to access my little piece of Tengoku is to take the bus. There are several downsides to this. First of all, the price is nearly double what it would cost to go an equivalent distance by train. I can go from Otaru to Sapporo by train for 600 yen (About 6 dollars), yet it costs me 980 yen to get from Otaru to Furubira by bus (Whaaaat?). Secondly, the bus ends deathly early. Whereas in more populated areas the train might run as late as 11 o clock, the bus stops making runs at 8:15 or so. What does this mean to me, the consumer? Well, say for example I was to leave work and head to the closest town (Yoichi) on the bus. The bus would pick me up at 5:15 and I would be in Yoichi at 5:45 or so. Now, the last bus leaves at 8, and it takes about 15 minutes walk to or from my friend Mikaly's apartment, so that leaves me a window of about an hour and 30 minutes to hang about and do whatever. That isn't really even enough time to go to a restaurant. So it's somewhat futile to try to go anywhere on the bus from Sunday to Thursday. Therefore, I'm pretty much stuck in my town anytime I have to go to school the next day.
The next factor is the people of Furubira. Now don't get me wrong, they are absolutely wonderful people, generous and kind. However there are several factors that keep me from getting to "best buds" status with any of them. The biggest and most obvious factor is of course, the language barrier. Even with the residents of the town who are incredibly proficient at the language, there can still be difficulties in the subtleties of speech. This could come about as a result of my dialect (Maritimes), or as a result of my constant use of puns and sarcasm. See, as anyone who has known me for a while will know, I absolutely LOVE puns. I probably spit one or two out in almost every conversation I have. Even when I worked as a cashier in retail, I would use them with my customers (often to their dismay). They're part of who I am. So I guess if you don't understand my puns, you don't really understand me.
Another factor is that I can't really "hang out" with anyone in my town. My ideal of the perfect friendship is what I had with my roommate in my second year of University. We could be in the same room, doing different things, but still be having conversations and generally having a good time. We had (and have) our inside jokes, our interests were similar, but we did our own thing. We didn't have to feign interest in things we weren't interested in in order to have a good relationship. Very little effort was required to remain best friends. Now don't get me wrong, I have my friends here in town, there are some truly awesome people here, but I can't see them coming over any time soon for a night of junk food and video games. I enjoy my time with them, but maybe friendship in Japan is a different concept.
I guess the last factor is one that I've built up myself. See, in Canada, if I didn't create a little space for myself I would never get alone time, and as an only-child, that's something I really value. It's only when you spend time alone that you can remember who you really are. When one is alone one can re-center on their ideals, their morals, and their life philosophy without fear of influence from outside sources. It's really quite nice. My mistake was keeping this paradigm of thought when I moved to Japan. See, in Japan, I don't really need to make this space as it is readily available through the week. So the first month or so I did my own thing, while at the same time the ALTs around me were building strong relationships. By the time I realized this, I was already an outsider. Maybe this can be remedied but for now I'm just "that guy who lives in a small town" I'm kind of the odd man out in my area. The Kutchan/Niseko crowd has a group, and the Shiribeshi region (Which I am part of) has their own group as well (Which I am not part of).
How I perceive the groups in my region.
It really is my fault though. I prioritized travel (Which I could have done later) over building new and lasting relationships. I have a lot of really good acquaintances, but very nobody I would consider my "best friend"
To be fair, looking back, I wouldn't have been friends with myself if I had met me the first couple months anyway. The change in locales changed my attitude for the worse. Where before I considered myself a pretty funny guy who tried to put others first, after moving to Japan I became a clingy kind of person who often bragged about how nice my house was. I became kind of a tool during the first couple welcome parties as well. I've been working on this steadily and I think every day I become a little more true to who I was in Canada. Honestly, if you are an aspiring JET and you're reading this blog, listen to what they say in orientation. Culture shock can change the very fabric of your personality if you let it.
So, it's because of these things that I have built up my own little world. There are times when I really enjoy my solitude, and there are times when I feel "forever alone"(don't worry, that's partially a joke).
Haha
I am partially prepared for this; however; as I did grow up in a rural area which had only 3 or four people my age. Plus the Internet has helped with this problem a lot. I talk with people from Canada almost every other day on facebook, and I keep up with what people have been doing around me. It really makes me wonder what the first ALTs in Furubira did to help with their loneliness.
Anyways, as the title suggests, my isolation has indeed been bittersweet, so I guess I'll use the next couple paragraphs to summarize the pros and cons of living in a small town.
Pros: -There is a lot of time to do what you want to do, whether that is a creative project, keeping up with the news, forming an illegal beetle fighting ring, reading, or playing video games, you have the time to do it.
-It's also very easy to keep my house very organized and clean. This is where I have a lot of respect for Anna, who lives in Sapporo. She runs her apartment like a free hotel, taking in others as they request (which is likely every weekend) and yet she keeps her place spotless. My place is nice too but that's easy as I'm the only person who would mess it up.
-I also get the true Japanese experience. Whereas in cities the ALTs spend a lot of time with each other, speaking English and what not, I spend a lot of time with native Japanese speakers. This allows me to better my Japanese while at the same time learning about Japanese society.
Cons: -I tend to go a little crazy sometimes (I talk to myself ALOT, to the point where I will have full dialogues). This happened in Canada too though, so I'm not worried.
-Culture shock feels multiplied as I have nobody to share my worries with.
-I have nobody to just hang out with and play video games/ eat junk food.
So that`s my situation in a nutshell. If you're one of the ALTs who lives near me, please understand I meant no offence by any of the things I said in this post, I just needed to express how I feel.
In any case, keep it real!
TL;DR: I really want a tomato and mayonnaise sandwich (Throw some pepper in there too and we would really be talking!).







